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Anita Cleare is a parenting speaker, writer and coach and co-founder of the Positive Parenting Project.

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How to Get Your Teenager Out of Their Bedroom

by Anita Cleare

Everything you need to know about connecting with your teen and being the parent they really need.

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The Work/Parent Switch

by Anita Cleare

How to be a great parent while juggling work and parenting.

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10 Children’s books about shyness

Reading books with children is a great way to start conversations about topics they might find difficult. Whether you have a shy child or just want to help your confident child develop empathy,...

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Books to help children cope with change

Change can be difficult for children. Children’s life experiences are much more limited than ours so they may not have learnt strategies for facing change confidently. And they often...

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Are smartphones harmful to teens?

Many parents feel instinctively that phones are somehow not 100% good for our teens. We worry that their constant checking, selfie-posting phone habit might be damaging their physical health, their...

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Connecting with a teen who wants nothing to do with you

Connecting with a teen in withdrawal mode is not easy. Relationships thrive on communication, goodwill, and spending time together – all of which can be in short supply between teens and their...

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8 Great Books About Modern Family Dynamics

I have chosen these 8 books about modern family dynamics because they include, explore and represent diverse aspects of modern family life. And they are all also a good read for anyone who is...

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Realistic expectations are good for children and parents

Having realistic expectations – of yourself and your children – is key to positive parenting. It builds children’s self-esteem, reduces parenting stress and helps you enjoy your...

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How to talk to teens about difficult topics

Does your teen get emotional or defensive when you try to talk to them? Do your conversations frequently end in conflict? Or do they just not listen? Here are some simple tips for keeping conversations with teens on track and for broaching tricky topics.

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How to banish working mum guilt

Do you worry that you should be doing more for your children? That you should be giving them more attention, spending more time with them, helping them more with their homework, being around more to pick them up – or that you are somehow failing to be the best mum you really want to be? This free video will help you understand where those guilt thoughts are coming from and how you can turn them around and manage parenting challenges positively.

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Using ‘Story Time’ to understand your child better

Children don’t always open up when asked direct questions. Here is a demonstration of a neat idea for finding out what your child is thinking and feeling by using books and story time.

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Words 'And breathe', Parenting expert Anita Cleare video tuorial on self soothe strategies for children

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Self-soothe strategies for overwhelmed children

When children are anxious or overwhelmed by big emotions, self soothe strategies can help them to calm down and avoid a meltdown. This free video explains how to teach self soothe strategies to your child and offers a variety of self soothe ideas for you to try out.

[ages 3-11yrs]

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the best webinar I have attended

This was one of the best, and possibly most useful webinars that I have attended to date... this was honestly so valuable, I can’t even explain how many notes I took!

Webinar attendee

Can't recommend enough

Can't recommend enough. Fun, interactive and practical sessions providing lots of opportunity for discussion. Anita is very experienced and highly engaging offering insights and guidance on many of the daily challenges we face as parents.

Seminar attendee

A weight off my shoulders

I left feeling as if a weight was lifted off my shoulders (guilt from unrealistic expectations of myself)

Parenting clinic attendee

cannot recommend Anita enough

The sessions were lively, fun and interactive as well as offering lots of practical advice and take always. I cannot recommend Anita enough

Michaela Gibson, Dive In Festival

It was a revelation

It was like someone swapped my children for nicer ones. Amazing what a difference a shift in my attitude made. My two were fighting all day and I was shouting all day, now they play nicely MOST of the time and I am a calm parent MOST of the time! It was a revelation.

Seminar attendee

interactive and engaging

it was one of the best parenting / work-life seminars I have attended. Even through a dial-in in Edinburgh, it was well-delivered, interactive and engaging.

webinar participant

more fun and caring relationship

I have learnt so much about myself and my actions. I have a better understanding of what my children need and we already have a better, calmer, more fun and caring relationship.

parent coachee