Top 10 books for teaching children about sex
Talking to children about bodies and bits and how they fit together isn’t always easy. The earlier you start and the more relaxed you are about it, the easier it will be (see Talking to children about sex, bodies and relationships). The hardest bit is getting started. Luckily, there are some great books for teaching children about sex, bodies and families, which can make launching into those conversations much easier. There’s no need to buy them – your local library will have lots of books for teaching children about sex (and that way you can check them out and find exactly the right one for your family).
To help you along, here’s my top ten list of the best books for teaching children about sex, puberty and relationships.
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Where Willy Went
Where Willy Went (by Nicholas Allen) is my personal favourite – it’s a jolly good story that just happens to be about a sperm…. Makes potentially difficult conversations very easy!
Hair in Funny Places
Hair in Funny Places (by Babette Cole) is a true classic. Great artwork, featuring a girl, her teddy bear and Mr and Mrs Hormone. A lovely book for introducing the idea of puberty to younger children.
There’s a House Inside My Mummy
There’s a House Inside My Mummy (by Giles Andreae) is gentle and simple, perfect for preparing young children for a new brother or sister. (Check out these other ideas for books for preparing a toddler for a new baby too!).
Let’s Talk About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families & Friends
The Let’s Talk series has a range of books for teaching children about sex, puberty, and families. They are factual and quite detailed and cover those topics that you might be a little scared of broaching. Ideal for starting conversations or for leaving in your child’s bedroom for him/her to pick up when interested. Let’s Talk About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families & Friends (by Robie H. Harris)
Mummy Laid an Egg
Mummy Laid an Egg is another great book by Babette Cole. This is a good option for turning the tables on parental embarrassment – no nonsense, straightforward and dispels silly myths people invent to avoid saying exactly where babies really do come from…..
King and King
King and King (by Linda De Haan) is a great read with fab pictures that just happens to feature a prince who marries another prince rather than a princess.
Discover Families
Discover Families (by Fliss Goldsmith) is a celebration of families and all the different shapes, sizes and forms that families can take – part of the Erin & Roderick series. Perfect for inclusive conversations and answering children’s questions about why/how families don’t all look the same. (For an alternative, The Family Book by Todd Parr is also very good on this topic).
Ready, Set, Grow!
Ready, Set, Grow! (by Lynda Madaras) is all about girls’ bodies and puberty. Detailed, but written in a sympathetic way that tackles lots of common fears and worries. Perfect for preparing younger girls for puberty or for girls who have started puberty early. Versions for older girls (What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Girls: Revised Edition) and for boys (The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Boys) are also available.
Let’s talk about Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect
Let’s talk about Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect (by Jayneen Sanders) is a great resource for talking about consent in a thoughtful and non-threatening way – so children understand their own body safety rights as well as respecting other children’s.
It’s Okay to be Different
It’s Okay to be Different (by Todd Parr) is not so much about sex and as about diversity in general. A great book for introducing young children to the idea that people (and bodies) come in all shapes, sizes and preferences, and that’s great!
Have you tried any of these books for teaching children about sex? How did it go? Or have I missed out your favourite? What tips would you share about talking to children about bodies and bits? Please do let us know – and check out this resource list for more advice on talking to children about tricky issues!
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Thanks for this! My boys are 14 and 11, so I think I’ve missed the boat with them, definitely with the eldest. But I need to talk to my 9yo daughter and I don’t know where to start! Could you recommend which books would be suitable for a 9yo girl?
I would go for ‘Ready, Set, Grow’ by Lynda Madaras or check out the ‘Let’s Talk’ series by Robie Harris for a 9 year-old girl. The FPA website (www.fpa.org.uk) has some great leaflets you can download too!
I’m SO glad to have stumbled upon this post. My daughter is only 3 but I want to get some books so that it all seems normal and there’s no big discussion/embarrassment about things. Thank you for sharing!
Really pleased it was useful for you!
We’ve missed the boat here as the Tubblet is now 11, but these look excellent
These are for a younger audience, but there is some great info on the FPA website (www.fpa.org.uk) for tweens and teens!
This is such an interesting and helpful post, Anita! We’ve done the awkward tiptoe dance around the subject with Gabby when I was pregnant with Reuben – Mike even attempted to drawer a diagram. I wish we’d had this list of resources then!!
Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx
Well, maybe for the next time?! 😉
I think this is great take some tips and clever phrases to explain what sex is to your kids. But God, King and King ?? Homosexual experience for 9 old? No joke?
Gay couples are part of the fabric of modern society so I personally think that helping children reflect on all the different types of families is totally appropriate. Obviously the book doesn’t go into any sexual details, it just happens to be about a prince who doesn’t fall in love with a princess. If you had a gay couple in your extended family or friends and wanted a way to discuss that with a 9 year old, that book could be a really useful?
Some great suggestions here. My girls have read a few of these with me and we found it a great way to start a ‘natural’ conversation.
It really helps to have something to build on when having a conversation that might feel awkward, doesn’t it!
Brilliant list, I’ll definitely be looking these up for when the time comes with my kids. thanks for sharing with #readwithme
Highly recommended – and it’s never too early to start talking!
Thank you for putting together this great list of books – we love the Babette Cole book 🙂
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The illustrations are wonderful too, aren’t they!