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Books to help children cope with change

ir?t=thinkiparent 21&l=li2&o=2&a=1408850001 - Books to help children cope with changeChange can be difficult for children. Children’s life experiences are much more limited than ours so they may not have learnt strategies for facing change confidently. And they often don’t have the reassurance of remembering previous occasions when they have faced big changes and adapted successfully. Young children, especially, thrive on predictability so can be stressed by even minor changes to their routine (see Helping children cope with change). Reading story books to help children cope with change can offer reassurance that change is ok and help start conversations about how children are feeling.

Here are my recommendations for reassuring and conversation-starting books to help children cope with change:

No Matter What

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The Invisible String

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The Koala Who Could

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The Complete Book of First Experiences

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Mummy Goes to Work

q? encoding=UTF8&ASIN=144492141X&Format= SL110 &ID=AsinImage&MarketPlace=GB&ServiceVersion=20070822&WS=1&tag=thinkiparent 21 - Books to help children cope with changeir?t=thinkiparent 21&l=li1&o=2&a=144492141X - Books to help children cope with changeMummy Goes to Work (by Kes Gray) is not so much a story book as a collection of reassuring statements. A sweet and simple book, ideal for toddlers. And for mums. A simple message that might be useful for preparing toddlers for mum going back to work.

 

Those are my recommendations for general books to help children cope with change. For books on other change-related topics, you might also find these booklists useful:

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